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How to Protect Yourself from Abuse?

5 different forms of abuse

When we hear the word “abuse,” what immediately springs to our mind is perhaps physical violence. It’s important to note that physical force is one means of power and control but it is far from the only one which cause bodily or mental pain. And perhaps to our surprise, physical violence is often not the first one an abuser will use.

Let’s check how many kinds of workplace abuse you have encountered and know more about them so that we can protect ourselves.

Abuse can be in the form of any of the following:

 

Physical Abuse – an intentional act to harm, injure or cause trauma to another person by means of bodily contact. It may include punching, hitting, slapping, kicking, strangling, physically restraining a partner against their will, or making someone afraid or feel physically unsafe.

 

Sexual Abuse – a sexual act (physical or non-physical) that is forced upon an individual without their consent. In this act of violence, the victim (survivor) is usually perceived as weaker by the perpetrator.

 

Financial Abuse – an abuse of power of one over the other. It includes withholding money and using it for blackmailing and intimidating the individual. It can include denying and preventing access to one’s salary or benefits and exploitation.

 

Verbal Abuse – an intentional act to harm, injure or cause trauma to another person by means of words to manipulate, intimidate and maintain control over. It may include derogatory remarks, humiliation, ridicule and the “silent treatment.”

 

Psychological (Emotional) Abuse – exposing another person to a behavior, through words or actions, that may result to the harm of the mental-wellbeing of an individual (e.g., psychological trauma, anxiety, or depression). It may include enforced social isolation, failure to respect privacy, threats of harm or termination, bullying etc.

 

How to deal with abuse?

Dealing with and getting out of an abusive situation can be challenging especially for domestic workers. Your circumstances may not allow you to immediately take action or get away from the situation. Here are ways you can do in order to feel safe until you can act.

 

1. Understand more about abuse and get away from it in the early stage.

 

2. Set boundaries. – try not to engage emotionally. People who abuse others would want to elicit reactions from the people they abuse, and it gives satisfaction to continue the hurtful things they do. Try not to engage and take the bait

 

3. Try to stay calm as much as possible.

 

4. Move to safety or leave the household if you are able to.

 

5. Reach out to your friends or family and tell them what’s happening and consult a mental health professional. There is no shame in telling other people you are a victim of abuse. All the more inform people of your situation so that they can help you.

 

6. Discreetly document everything that is happening in the household

Dos and Don’ts in dealing with abuse

Do:

 

1. Call your trusted friends or ask from help from your neighbors if you’re in immediate danger.

 

2. Strengthen your support system.

 

3. Consult with a social worker or mental health professional.

 

4. Reflect on your current situation (why you want to stay in your current employment) and make of this in considering other possible options for yourself

 

Don’t:

 

1. Act harshly or unthoughtfully.

 

2. Let your emotions overpower you.

 

3. Provoke or criticize your abuser.

 

4. Threaten to do physical harm or injury.

 

5. Try to reason with them.

 

6. Confront them when you are alone.

How to recover after an abuse

Remember, there is no shame in being a victim of abuse. You are a SURVIVOR and it’s now time for you to focus on your own recovery and healing. If you have experienced any form of abuse in your life, the following steps could help you.

 

1. Acknowledge that abuse occurred and had impacts in your life.

 

2. Educate yourself and learn to assert your rights.

 

3. Practice self-care. Eat well, sleep well and exercise. Let your body recover and heal, so that your mind could follow as well.

 

4. Practice stress management or relaxation techniques when faced in a difficult/stressful situation.

 

5. Connect with family and friends you can trust and build your support system.

 

6. Engage in activities that could enhance your well-being. Start a hobby or maybe join a group of your interest.

 

7. Seek the help of a mental health professional as a co-journeyer in your recovery.

 

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